Meet Andre Lazarus
Andre Lazarus is a Somatic Intimacy Guide, Surrogate Partner and media-recognized voice on relationships, sexuality, and embodied connection. His career has followed an unconventional path: from serving in the U.S. Marines to guiding people through the complexities of intimacy and desire. That breadth of experience gives him a distinctive perspective on courage, vulnerability, and human connection.
He is best known for his role on the UK television series Virgin Island, where he appeared as a professional surrogate partner helping participants confront intimacy challenges alongside licensed therapists. The program drew national attention, and Andre’s presence on screen highlighted how intimacy work is not about performance but about safety, consent, and the courage to connect.
What is Coming Closer?
Through his practice, Coming Closer, Andre supports individuals and couples across a wide range of needs: men facing midlife performance concerns, survivors of trauma seeking safety, long-term partners wanting to revive passion, and those exploring alternatives such as ethical non-monogamy. Equally, he works with couples committed to monogamy who want to strengthen trust and rediscover each other.
His approach, rooted in the Somatica® Method of sex and intimacy coaching and IPSA’s Surrogate Partner methodology, emphasizes learning through the body and replacing shame with curiosity and uncertainty with empowerment.
What the practice stands on
Consent comes first.
Every interaction is within choice, with your boundaries being honored and celebrated.
Your pace.
Nothing is rushed or pushed. You dictate the pace at which we move.
Honest scope.
Coaching is not therapy, what we work on has the capacity to go even deeper.
Navigating shame.
We work to uncover what's holding you back while celebrating each moment taking you closer to your highest potential.
Why I do this work
I didn't come to this work, born with the skills I possess. I learned the hard way, through trial and error, making mistakes along the way, and staying humble and curious to where I still had/have room to grow and learn. I am a constant student in my life and I bring the lessons I’ve learned into each session with you.
I don’t claim to have it all figured out. What I bring is my humanness and 10+ years of experience in this work, helping you navigate the same places I’ve been before, so you don’t have to make the same mistakes.
You are not alone. Take the next step to your highest potential, work with me.
Qualifications
Somatica Certified Sex, Intimacy & Relationship Coach
IPSA Certified Surrogate Partner
10+ years of experience guiding people in their intimate discovery & exploration
12 years of experience living, coaching and navigating consensual non-monogamy
I specialize in erotic desire, sexless relationships, sexual trauma healing, erectile concerns, rapid ejaculation, BDSM, consensual non-monogamy, and more.